Day 86: To care or not to care?

You shouldn't care what others think.

How many times have we heard or uttered some iteration of this concept?

How many times, if you're like me, have you found yourself thinking, "I know I'm not supposed to care what other people think, but . . ." as if caring what other people think is bad or wrong.

I get that if 'what other people think' is fuel for comparisons, self-doubt, feelings of lack or worthlessness, it might not be in one's best interest to listen too closely. But what about the other side of the coin?

What about the times when 'what people think' is largely positive? Or complimentary? Or validating?

Are we still open to hearing it?

What if caring what other people think could give a lens through which to view oneself in a positive regard from an objective perspective? Not only in the moment but going forward.

I think about many times in my life where I've received a compliment and immediately shot it down or minimized it:
"Oh it's not a big deal, anyone could do it."

Or questioned the sincerity or truth of praise received from others:
'They just said that to be nice - they probably don't really mean it.'

But here's the truth, people don't just make up good qualities in others so they can compliment them. They speak to what they see and experience.

Often it is our own fears, insecurities and, surprisingly, even our deepest desires, that block our ability to see our own greatness - our skills, strengths, gifts and talents. 

So next time you receive praise from someone, go a step beyond just accepting the compliment - and believe it.