Day 242: Desperately Searching

Overheard on my morning walk -

"...they think I'm desperate or whatever. I'm not desperate, there's a difference..."

I can only presume that the man I overheard talking on the phone, was referring to his desire for a romantic relationship.

Why?

Because in our society great desire for such a thing is quickly judged as 'desperation'.

But what if it wasn't?

What if it was seen for what it is? Having a known want and priority in life?

That's not to say approaches and views don't need to be examined and tweaked  in order to turn this desire into a belonging. But it IS to say that there's nothing wrong with it.

 

Our desires reveal our priorities.

 

This man, if he was indeed speaking of being viewed as 'desperate' for a relationship, is simply trying to give his priorities the attention they call for.

 

However, with all priorities (and desires) in life, it is important to break them down.

 

That's the first step before taking action.

 

In breaking them down, comes the understanding of why they are important to you. 

What it is you will gain from them.

And the most beneficial routes of gaining this core why.

After the breakdown, it's not uncommon to discover that the things being sought out from others, can actually be found within oneself. 

 

And in making such a realization, the original priorities can be pursued in a way that adds to one's life rather than 'fills a hole' or 'fixes it'.

When one's approach shifts to that of adding to an already whole picture, the idea of desperation will never cross one's radar.