To want to understand what your dreams are and pursue them.
To want to live with ease in a way that feels good.
When we allow ourselves to want, when we allow ourselves to desire, we come closer to understanding who we are. We come closer to true happiness.
To want does not mean to be selfish. To want is to dream.
As the Cinderella song tells us, "A dream is a wish your heart makes." [Cue Sonia playing this on the piano over and over as fast as she can.]
What are the wants, the wishes, the desires of your heart?
Maybe you're like me and have been ignoring, quieting, and repressing them because you: are being realistic don't do 'that sort of thing' have no experience don't know how aren't good enough I could keep this list going for a while . . .
So instead, I'll ask again, what are the desires of your heart?
Here's a hot tip - if something comes to mind and is immediately followed by why you can't do it or why you don't really want it, it's probably worth paying attention to.
Your wants, your wishes, your desires - when they come from the heart will always lead you where you need to be.
"But what if I have no idea how to reach my dream? What if it seems so unrealistic or out of reach it feels like a - well, a pipe dream?"
Doesn't matter.
Last time I checked, we can only take one step at a time.
It's so easy to take in the viewpoint or opinion of others and adopt it for our own.
Just think back to when we were kids.
I can recall many times hearing adults talk about things I'd never experienced or wasn't remotely aware of and taking them as fact. Little did I know these unintentionally adopted viewpoints would influence many of my future beliefs, behaviors, and actions.
As kids, there's not much we can do about this. As adults, it's a whole different story.
That's why being an adult is so great! Because we get to decide what we believe - no one else can do this for us.
With that said - how often are we taking time to ensure the information wanting to hang out between our ears is what we actually believe?
When do we pause to break down new ideas we've heard - to fully understand what they are made up of?
What body cues are we listening to or ignoring?
[Good rule of thumb: if you feel relaxed, calmed, or lighter by a thought - it's typically a green light to keep it. If you feel restricted, tense, or heavy/weighed down by a thought - it likely does not align with your values and you might want to reassess.]
We do the world - and ourselves - no favors by blindly accepting the viewpoints and opinions of others.
Bittersweet realizations are exhausting. I've had so many lately, my brain and emotions feel like mush. It is so draining. But so worth it. Bittersweet realizations are helping set me free. Slowly. draining Slowly. Repairing. Showing me the horror of what I actually believed To reveal what I really want. Appreciating what I had and what it gave me. Finally, mourning the loss, fully, and leaving it in the past. But keeping the memories. The memories that spur me forward Towards what I Really want.
