Saturday, April 16, 2022

Day 82: Answered Prayers

I never really knew what it meant for a prayer 'to be answered.' I think in my childhood mind I heard this and envisioned whatever it was the person was praying for to somehow just magically appear. Some people had to pray a lot longer than others to have their prayers answered. And still others never would.

To me, it seemed similar to the lottery. You buy your ticket(s) - say your prayer(s) - and hope that you'll be the winner. And if you 'won' - if your prayer was answered it would be in a big, profound, obvious(ly visible) way.

Yeah, that's never happened to me. So it's no wonder I didn't think any of my prayers were answered. Or, more importantly, I just thought prayers being answered was akin to the luck of the draw.

This is before I found coaching.

My mind up to this point had been trained to only register 'big' things, blindly overlooking the rest. 

I recall my older sister once responding to my questioning of what might be my blind-spots (in life). She said I often overlooked opportunities right in front of me. Fast forward five years later, I can clearly see that these opportunities that I overlooked right in front of me weren't 'big' enough to be picked up on my radar at the time.

It is overtime, with life and experience, that our radar and perspective changes. It is with coaching that this happens much quicker and by our choosing, rather than leaving it up to chance or fate.

So how does this relate to answered prayers? Because 'to see' is a choice. And I'm not literally talking about the cones and rods and light dynamics of eyes that make vision possible.

I'm talking about one's ability, or rather willingness, to perceive and be aware.

When I started learning about coaching and then working with my own coach, I greatly increased my awareness - across the board. Awareness of my thoughts, feelings, perspectives, beliefs, judgements.

It was with this heightened observation that I was able to understand information that, as a child, wasn't able to hit as it was intended.

You ever have the experience where someone's trying to teach you something and you're just not getting it? Then a different person comes around and teaches the exact same information, but from a slightly different angle and it all makes sense?

It's like that.

Coaching allowed me to expand my range of comprehension so things I didn't fully understand were now taking on a whole new meaning and providing substantial clarity along the way.

I was making the choice 'to see.' I was willing 'to see.' And as a result, I began 'to see' the world around me in subtle, but different ways.

An idea I've always championed is that every experience is a learning opportunity. It provides skills and information needed to navigate forward on your unique life path. 

Curious, that this strongly held belief had no association with answered prayers; at least until I was 32 years old (and almost 33 - my Jesus yr!).

Prayers are, by and large, offered up subtly; and so too, are the answers to these prayers. It takes a willing ear and open mind to fully see them. It might also require a different vocabulary, as answered prayers have many synonyms including insight, intuition, divine guidance - and heck, even coincidence!

Contrary to what childhood Sarah would have you believe, answered prayers don't instantly solve your problems or take them away. They don't grant all your wishes or magically  make your dreams come true. But they do give you the confirmation, tools & resources needed to overcome every hurdle & obstacle you come across and help you climb every ladder & mountain to the dreams of your heart.


Friday, April 15, 2022

Day 81: Wrinkles or Flawless

Young woman to her friend:

"Do you think Jesus had wrinkles?"




. . . or was he SO perfect that even his skin was flawless?"



Thursday, April 14, 2022

Day 79: Wind-Proof

Friend 1: I just got some new biking gloves! They're not very warm but they're wind-proof.

Friend 2: Nice! I can't wait to see them.

 
 Are those . . . cleaning gloves?

Wednesday, April 13, 2022

Day 78: Daring Spirit

 

This is some cashew cheese "sauce" I made a while ago. I actually don't remember when I made it. I questioned if it was too old to eat, but the smell test doesn't work bc it smelled weird to begin with! So I tried it and ... it tastes better than it did before. . .

I thought you would appreciate this - and if I'm not at work tomorrow you'll know why!
😜

A message sent to the type of co-worker you like to "wow" with your questionable food timelines. 

And earn the title of Daring Spirit for it. 😉

Tuesday, April 12, 2022

Day 77: Booby Beyond the Sea


I was listening to Pandora on the TV and was thoroughly enjoying my Big Band station. 

Then, all of a sudden, something caught my eye!

I did a double take.

Does that says Booby?!?

[Eruption of giggles] 

Not only is this hilarious, but (if this were real) whoever was in charge of editing really missed the mark...

Monday, April 11, 2022

Day 76: First Dates 4 Life

You ever see that movie, 50 First Dates? I didn't like it. I'm not a fan of movies with plots of recurring plots.

On first dates we are excited and eager to learn and see how things go. To learn about our date. To see how we present ourselves - and thus feel about ourselves. To understand how we act and connect in relation to another person and a new situation.

Everything about first dates is new. Even we are new, in a sense. 

We are presenting ourselves to a new person - we are showing who we are in a new time, and hopefully, in a new way than we have before.

This idea of first dates for life is not about finding a partner or coming off a certain way. It is about adopting the first date mindset for all of life.

Dates are great - but what about all of the other days of our lives?! There is always so much going on, so much to see, learn, observe and contemplate.

What if we were as eager and excited to really live in the world around us as we are to be in the moment in a date?

Maybe one day life takes on the form of a not so great date, such as eavesdropped over margaritas with my sister and recorded below:

Woman 1:  I mean he was a nice guy and all, but it just wasn't clicking. 

Woman 2:  What did you guys end up doing?

Woman 1:  . . . We went to an escape room . . .

Woman 2:  Did you at least escape?

Woman 1: No!

Or maybe a different day, life channels this VERY random date snippet - also eavesdropped over margaritas with my sister:

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Woman on date:   "Do you still drink a lot of milk?
                               -- I have a twin sister..."

[no pause for her date's answer or perceptible segue to the new topic]

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The point I'm getting at is, you never know what's going to come. But you've got to be paying attention to your date [life] so you don't miss the good stuff! When you do, you give every day the opportunity to be exciting, energizing, and just the right amount of nerve provoking.

Sunday, April 10, 2022

Day 75: Foul

I walk into the bathroom at Mayan Palace and am immediately hit with a Smell.

I lock myself in my stall and utter under my breath, "it smells foul in here!"

. . . And then I hear a toilet flush in the stall next to me . . .

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Did I just transport back in time to 6th grade?!

No? Not quite? 

I suppose that's true, because I would have had to say:

"It smells like Mrs. [Name] in here!"

Then I'd have seen her, immediately after, exit the handicap stall and make eye contact with me in the mirror.

*Shudder*

Not one of my favorite moments.

Why is it that I (and maybe you, too??) feel embarrassed or worried/regretful when I comment on something such as a stinky poop smell in the restroom and then get confirmation that the culprit is still within range?

I didn't say anything 'wrong' or 'mean'. I simply uttered an observation. 

Perhaps it's because the majority of our thoughts about others are really reflections of ourselves. 

I felt embarrassed, worried, regretful to have potentially been heard saying it smelled bad because I would have felt those things if I had been the one to stink it up - And that's without hearing anyone comment on the stench!

Knowing this tidbit - that we all are just responding to our own reflections as we go through life - can be quite helpful. Especially if we flip it! 

There's a very good chance that someone else's response to something or a situation has less to do about you or me and our role in it and more to do with their own perceptions and insecurities.

But back to public restrooms - the reality is EVERYBODY POOPS. And sometimes it doesn't smell the best - especially if you're eating cuisine rooted in beans (me encanta frijoles!!) - but I guess that's just a perk of being human.