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My last class assignment - write 20 one-liner jokes.
I got into a little fender bender at the grocery store the other day.
It was in aisle 10.
This was not the cart I hit (the first or the second!), but I did think it was kind of odd and a bit inconsiderate to abandon one's cart in the literal middle of the aisle. So I decided to document.
If you're like me having big goals is great, but they can also be pretty intimidating.
Especially when things don't go as expected (as expectations have a way of turning great opportunities into disappointments).
What I've found (and continually find myself 'rediscovering' over and over) is that there are always much smaller goals in place before the big one can be accomplished.
Often these smaller goals are disguised as tasks or actions - the building blocks of progress.
And, when viewed as tasks rather than goals, it is way too easy to become overwhelmed with stress.
Why?
Because the learning, knowledge, and information that can be gained from these 'tasks' or 'actions' is overlooked. And when this happens, when we aren't actively learning from what's going on around us, we will eventually find ourselves in a bit of a slump. Feeling stuck, lost, stressed, pressured, and wondering where the fire and excitement we used to have for the goal has gone.
This is a crummy place to be.
I'm finally starting to come out of my own brief stay here.
The thing that helped me flip the switch and remove stress and pressure was zeroing back in on the smaller goals. And not just the tasks themselves, but WHY I am doing the tasks.
For example - taking a standup comedy class. The real reason I did it was to learn. To learn writing skills and delivery techniques for a more engaging presentation.
The class wasn't started in order to become a comedy star or to 'be the best.'
It was simply to learn.
To learn basics.
To build up my life toolbox so that I can practice manipulating skills and techniques in new and different ways than I could before.
It's about collecting data - seeing what I like and what I don't like, what I enjoy most and what I enjoy least.
It's not about perfection and it's not about achievement (as much as Hazey would have me believe otherwise).
It's about learning, plain and simple.
And the only guaranteed way to learn is to show up.
It's the very first step possible.
It holds no expectations or agendas.
But from it, anything is possible.
The first goal is showing up.
Let's start there.
Isn't it interesting that something as seemingly ordinary as a sound can make all the difference in how you interpret something?
It can be the difference between dread and delight.
Ok, so, say I had a really obnoxious ringtone during the time I was dating my last boyfriend and now when I hear my phone ring I get a sense of dread. Can I get rid of that by changing my ringtone?
Yes!
Obviously (or maybe not so obvious), it's not the sound that is causing the dread, but rather the thought associated with the sound.
Changing the sound allows you to access a different perspective and build new associations to phone calls so that no matter the ringtone, you can feel relaxed and delighted.
Anything can be viewed as a dreaded phone call:
- feedback on a project
- interacting with strangers
- stretching
- etc
and conversely,
anything can be viewed as a relaxing and delightful phone call:
- learning something new
- meeting someone new
- stretching
- etc
Next time you experience feelings of dread or upset,
why not try out a new ringtone and try on a different perspective?
Coaching is not just hiring a personal project manager for your dreams.
Coaching is that AND
And boy do I need a Coach.
I'm so glad I have Audrey!
Especially now as I'm finally starting to get in motion with my own dreams.
Things are starting to feel scary!
Because I'm encountering a lot of new experiences I've never had before.
The most basic (and perhaps indicative of a privileged life) is the experience of challenge.
Up to this point, everything I've pursued has come somewhat naturally to me.
Yes, I've had challenges, but my overall endeavors were not Challeng-ing.
I guess that means I'm used to receiving some form of instant gratification or validation for my efforts. And now I'm moving into territory where nothing is instant or feels natural.
I'm not used to this feeling.
I'm gonna be honest, I don't like it.
It's intimidating as hell and Hazey has been taking FULL advantage to freak me out and commandeer my brain. This is done in attempts to get me to stop trying and protect me from any possibility of disappointment or failure.
Man, I wish that once we worked through insecurities and doubt they would just stay gone.
But that's not how life works.
We are given opportunity after opportunity to strengthen our resiliency, bravery, and trust in ourselves. And it come in the form of fear.
Ugh. Gross.
Why does it have to be so uncomfortable?????
Because that's where learning happens.
Kind of bleak - but very true.
We get to choose what we do when things start to get uncomfortable or scary.
And I choose to use coaching to help.
One of my best and oldest friends from Chicago is getting married today.
I met Elsa as a naive, doe-eyed 21 year old. Introduced by a mutual friend, we bonded instantly.
Over the next decade we experienced a lot together. So many laughs, dance nights, and at home NPPs (nail painting parties), Easter celebrations and homemade pretzels.
We navigated the hard times that come with growth and discovering who you are, bittersweet separations cross states and continents and long-awaited reunions, loss, and heartbreak.
It was with Elsa that I realized my dream to be an inspirational speaker - originally set to launch once we became senior citizens, as a dynamic duo.
Elsa has always been a shining light in my life. Demonstrating what it means to know and be proud of what you love and what makes you happy. A true child of rock & roll.
It has been quite the journey to get to where we are now. And it seems like the past 5 years, with Matthew in the picture, happened in the blink of an eye. Or perhaps over the course of a decade, because that's how fitting he is for Elsa - and within her closest friend group (i.e. I couldn't approve of him more).
On this very special day in our lives, I wish for my dear Elsa . . .
Never-ending Happiness : generated from deep inside you and sustained by being exactly who you are - amazing, authentic, Elsa - and amplified through your life partnership.
Continued Growth : in every experience you have as an individual and as a wife, friend, and partner-in-crime. Learning from everything that comes your way so you may encourage and assist one another in the continued climb towards embracing your best selves.
Ease & Peace : that comes from seeking out and focusing on that which will add to your life, continuing to learn about and understand yourself as an individual and partner, and always letting your values direct your path.
E-biscuit, it's an honor to know you and call you my friend.
Happy Happy HAPPY wedding day!
For some reason that doesn't sit well with me.
Learning of this search for 'Loyalty' seemed to bring along with it a splash of bad vibes.
I suppose it's because the definition I have of 'loyalty' is strongly associated with 'being forced to pick sides' and 'committing to something no matter what - even if it's not the best for you.'
(Boy, is that perspective telling of previous experiences I've had!!)
You know, like how in tense tv or movie dramas there always seems to be someone questioning another's loyalties when it comes to a moral decision or dilemma.
Due to this, I find that alignment is a much better thing to search for.
Depending on which dictionary definition you go with, this may or may not make sense.
I'm referring specifically to alignment as:
"a state of agreement or cooperation among persons, groups, nations, etc., with a common cause or viewpoint."
This feels WAY better to me!
Why?
Because it allows for the natural and expected growth and change that comes with being alive.
Alignment does not restrict you to one viewpoint forever.
Alignment doesn't keep you chained to the same routines and muted dreams in order to accommodate or please others.
Alignment lets you FLY.
And ensures that whoever is in alignment with you is flying, too. Whatever that flight path may be.
My sister and I were walking back to my apartment
when something caught our eyes ...
Does this make us creeps?
Yeah, probably...
We may be creeps, but we're observant creeps.
- and it makes life more fun!
Never have I ever been asked out via FB messenger . . .
. . . by a former middle school classmate's mom . . .
. . . for her son (not for her) . . .
Msg #1
Msg #2
What the heck?! This is so WEIRD!!!
(And also sort of questionable if they were both meant for me)
But, hey - if nothing else - it's a nice reminder of how awesome I am!!!
Anything that can be taken as acknowledgement or appreciation of you and your qualities, personality, etc -
TAKE IT
There's a reason people say these things.
It's ok for you to believe it - and be proud of it - too.
This is what I've been trying to figure out practice.
Two weeks ago I started a standup comedy class. And I've had two weeks to complete my one homework assignment, which is to tell a 4 minute personal story.
Sounds simple enough. I'm just telling a short story about an experience that I've had, should be easy!
It should be, but it wasn't.
It took me the WHOLE two weeks to actually sit down, write out the main points, add extra details of emotion and description, and smooth out transitions.
If I were to boil down the span of days to see how much time I actually spent working on my assignment, the total would likely clock in at around 4 hours, max.
Isn't it interesting that the things we want and are interested in, we often push off and procrastinate on the most?
At least, I'm finding that's the case for me.
When this happens, it can be hard to make sense of.
"Does this mean that taking this [standup class / insert your interest here] is not as important to me as I thought?!"
"Maybe it's not really what I'm supposed to be doing..."
One quick way to check in and confirm - or squash - these pesky second guessing thoughts is to think about how you feel when you do the activity in question.
For me, during my first standup class, I was filled with joy.
I'm willing to bet money I had a smile on my face, ear to ear, the whole 3 hour session.
And when we practiced a 2-minute story in class with the microphone, not only did I hold myself back from volunteering to go first, but I loved sharing my story. I relished that my classmates got to relive the surprise I experienced months ago, in real time.
And if that wasn't enough of an indication that this class and what I am learning is, indeed, important to me - I was so jazzed and energized when I went home, I could barely go to sleep!
It felt just like a coaching high.
So, with my interest confirmed - what was holding me back?
- from working on my homework?
- from practicing skills I need and want?
- from trying something new and not-so-familiar?
I'll give you one guess.
fear
When I was totally honest with myself, I was afraid of things not working out.
Afraid that, now that I'm taking steps towards realizing MY dreams, my desire won't be enough.
I won't be enough.
That's right, Hazey was back at it - trying everything she could think of to keep me where I currently am.
The thing is, where I AM is not where I want to BE. And in order to get there, I need to do things I haven't done before.
The only possible way for me or you or anyone else on the planet to not 'be enough' is if we stop trying.
As a former coaching client beautifully put it, "I am learning every day."
And this means that every day we can learn and practice and grow, bit by bit, closer to the dream we have for ourselves.
I will learn how to write a joke - lots of jokes.
But not only that, I will learn to share myself, perspective, and life outlook in an entertaining way that positively impacts others.
What will you do?
On Tuesday I had another squirrel hole sighting. And this time I got a good picture!
They are two young squirrels. I saw the Mamma earlier and she was falling asleep - she could barely keep her eyes open!
I also met a fellow nature enthusiast named Carole. She's been taking pictures of and feeding the squirrels all through the pandemic. She shared with me that she's even sent in some of her Squirrel photos to the news station and they showed them on the air!
I show her my squirrel babies photo.
"Oh my gosh, this is amazing! I've never seen that before. Will you send me this photo?!"
Uh - YEAH!!!
So then I naturally show off my photos of the beaver I saw earlier in the year - she wants these photos, too.
Boy oh boy, am I feeling good!
She then tells me that I should send some of my photos of the beaver to the news station. And I just might!
I guess little squirrels just bring people together...
Over the past year I have learned how unkind I am to myself.
Sarah's World was undeniably influenced - and inspired - by Bobby's World.
Bobby's World is an American animated television series. It ran from 1990 to 1998 on FOX Kids. It was set in 1979 in California. It was about the life of Bobby Generic (pronounced JEN-É™-rik) and his imagination on how he sees the world.
I watched Bobby's World a lot as a child. Which is funny, seeing as I don't really remember much about it, now. But, I guess conscious memories don't really matter when the impact is visible many years later....
What's the impact, you ask?
The most obvious is the desire to share my world - my thoughts, perspectives, struggles and achievements.
- To share the unique way I interpret things and explore what it would be like if things actually played out as I imagined them.
- And doing it all in a way that is 100% me. Rather than trying to mimic or match the tone, content, or presentation of others.
But there's more to Bobby's World's impact on me than that. After reading up a bit on the show, I discovered some unexpected similarities - or dare I say, aspirations?
One - The show was based off of Howie Mandel's stand up shows and his character, Bobby.
While I definitely don't have a standup show, I have recently acknowledged and accepted that is a goal I want to work towards.
Two - It focuses on the seemingly mundane or inconsequential, yet addresses big life lessons.
Three - Through the use of grand imagination, the audience is given an opportunity to see the same topics approached from different perspectives.
These differences in perspective show that there is never one way to view or do something, nor is there ever only one side to a story - there are many.
Lastly, in this article/video, Bobby's World has been suggested as the 'Seinfeld for Kids.'
Wow - fav show from my childhood meets fav show from adulthood?!
I feel like I'm catching a whiff of an uncoincidental coincidence...
My computer alerted me on August 30th, that it was Mary Shelley's 225th birthday.
I sincerely hope that in 1000 years, we are still tracking the age of deceased artists...
In January I went for a walk and noticed a hole in a tree.
I wonder if an animal lives in there?
Nosy by nature, I balanced on tip-toes to peer inside.
I don't think anyone is home, but I spy a bed!
Fast forward roughly nine months later, to today.
I, again, went for a walk. But this time, I decided to take a seat on a bench overlooking the pond.
It just so happens that this bench directly faces the tree with the hole I had noticed at the beginning of the year. During my sit I had planned to do some thinking and writing, but my attention was quickly diverted.
By a head.
Poking out of the hole!
My jaw dropped.
There's a squirrel in there!! I've never seen a squirrel inside a tree before!
Needless to say, I was excited.
So excited, that I had to capture it! Even if it is with a low-quality, kind-of-hard-to-see-what's-happening-unless-you-saw-it-in-real-life sort of video.
This is just another example, in a growing list, of how everything comes back around to connect together.
Sometimes it takes months, other times days. But always it requires an observant eye.
I have a giant head and big eyes because I love looking around and observing everything around me.
I really like nature and traveling - which makes sense, because I'm a bird!
Brrr, this ice sheet is cold!
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That's all for now.
Adventure awaits!
A while back, when on a nature walk, I spotted a grasshopper.
Wow, I haven't seen a grasshopper in a Long time!
Naturally, I wanted to get a close up photo of it (given my newly discovered photography skillz).
I didn't have a chance. I couldn't get close enough and the grasshopper, sensing my encroachment, hopped away.
A few days later I saw a group of them in some tall grasses I was passing by.
Ooh! I'll try to get my photo now!
Nope, same outcome as before.
Disappointed but undeterred, I maintained my determination to one day capture the beauty, details, patterns and textures of the grasshopper with a close up photo.
I didn't know when or how it would happen, but I fully believed that one day it would.
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This morning before work as I was making breakfast and getting ready for my day, something caught my eye.
The sight was so compelling I stopped what I was doing, grabbed my phone and scurried over to the window.
Something seemed VERY out of place.
What the heck?! There's a grasshopper on my 4th story window!!!
I was so excited! How was this even happening? A grasshopper randomly climbing on MY window FOUR stories above the ground?!
I couldn't believe it. I was finally going to get my close up! Well, the grasshopper was going get IT's closeup.
And you'd better believe it was a photoshoot. I tried out ALL of the angles. Probably spent a solid 5 minutes - at least.
It is so interesting how the things that capture our attention and really spark an interest or desire seem to keep resurfacing.
Sometimes we miss them, too distracted or busy to catch the subtle appearance.
And other times the reappearance is too obvious to miss - like the grasshopper.
What we focus on expands.
This is why when something catches your eye - say someone's bright yellow shirt, for example - you then start seeing the same or similar things all over the place/way more frequently.
It's on your radar, now [whatever 'it' is], so it's much easier to pick up and notice later on.
This is a great realization to have not just about nouns - people, places, or things - but about attitudes, perspectives and approaches as well.
What we focus on expands.
Knowing this, why not focus on the things that we want, are interested in, lift us up, make us feel good? Why not intentionally expand the positive attitudes, open-minded perspectives, and nonjudgmental approaches that would benefit us most?
That sounds a whole heck of a lot better than focusing on things that hold us back and break us down.
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In the spirit of accuracy, I must admit that all of the grasshoppers I saw on my walks and the one I had a photoshoot with this morning are actually Locusts. Not Grasshoppers.
I didn't know what a Locust was until I looked up the difference between a grasshopper and a locust after my sister asked which it was.
Locusts can fly. Grasshoppers can't.
Who knew? Clearly not me.
My research also left me with these fun facts [courtesy of AZ Animals] - enjoy!
There are many things you may not know about grasshoppers. Here are some examples:
Locusts also have some interesting things about them: